Authentic power is the real deal. You can’t inherit it, buy it, or win it. You also can’t lose it. You don’t need to build your body, reputation, wealth, or charisma to get it. None of that can help you when it comes to creating authentic power. Anyone can become authentically powerful. Even a rock star or the President of the United States can become authentically powerful, although just being a rock star or President is no guarantee of authentic power.

The only way to become authentically powerful is to create authentic power. You cannot wish, want, or command authentic power into your life, although you can try. Wishing, wanting, and commanding don’t give you any traction when it comes to creating authentic power. Creating authentic power requires commitment, courage, and discipline that far exceed those of a professional athlete or accomplished artist. The skills that athletics and art or any other profession require are limited in usefulness to athletics, art, or the profession. The skills that are required to create authentic power can be used in every circumstance, every situation, with every person. They are 1) the ability to distinguish within yourself the difference between love and fear, and 2) choosing love all the time no matter what is happening inside you or outside you.

When the pain of anger, guilt, loss, grief, resentment, fear, jealousy or rage stab, throb, ach, and tear at you, that is the time to create authentic power by not acting on it. When chaos, dissolution, dysfunction, or violence surround you, that is the time to create authentic power by not reacting to it. You decide what you will say and do, not your internal or external circumstances. You choose to be patient when impatience roars through you, silent when you want to shout, listen when you feel compelled to speak. You choose the healthiest intentions and actions you can reach for, no matter what. Like an accomplished athlete or professional, your performances are dazzling, but only you see them. They are not to manipulate or control others, not to vanquish, gain, impress, or win the prize. They are to stand on the ground of your own sanity and humanity, no matter what. This is the real deal. Are you interested?



  • Published: March 21, 2012
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3 comments on “THE REAL DEAL”

  1. FindingAnna says:

    I am interested. And I am finding that it is very easy to forget my commitment to myself. I have developed some bad habits: shoving down disappointment, reacting in defence, avoiding what I don’t want to deal with. But, the peace that I fill as I put one foot in front of the other and move ahead a step after falling back, That is where I want to place my focus. Thanks Gary for sharing the real deal

  2. Astral11 says:

    I had an experience with the real deal about 18 months ago. My parents passed away very suddenly, under tragic circumstances. Now that I feel that I am truly on the other side of tragedy, I can examine it with objectivity.
    At the time, dealing with the events of that day and its aftermath, I could not have articulated what was happening around me and to me as being a gift. But it was.
    You see, I presented myself with the opportunity to test my authenticity. To test my alignment with Love, and peace, and to find my joy in the midst of what surely was chaos.
    I had done the work. There was a peaceful flow inside me, a calmness that allowed me to empathize and extend love to those that came to comfort ME. It was a profound experience. And later, when another set of circumstances rose to the surface, seated in deep family dysfunction, I could access that calm peaceful flow and choose the path of peace. Not because it was fair, but because it was peaceful. When I asked myself, “Would you rather be right, or peaceful?” the answer was clear. Now, to say that was an easy choice would be an attempt to decieve not only you but myself. It was darn hard.
    I am so grateful for those lessons that I am well aware that I came here to this earth school to learn. Because of them I am now an open conduit for the Divine, sharing myself in song and the written word. Giving and extending love. It feels so good to detach from things, and form, and fear, and attachment.
    I do stand for sanity, and humanity! Thanks Gary 🙂

  3. Dianne says:

    Your messages always arrive when I need a reminder. Thank-you for this.
    I can now feel the fear and anger when I experience it. I feel my body temperature rise and I feel the tension in my muscles. When I experience this, I ask myself, ” Why are you doing this to your body?” This question brings me back to a place of detachment and I am able to let go of the anger or the fear. It is a constant struggle though. Certain people and situations tend to trigger these emotions and even though I am aware of this, I still have to work at the control. Yes, I am interested in the real deal.

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