I feel so unfulfilled and lonely inside. How do I find my purpose?
From the perspective of your soul, all of your experiences offer you opportunities to grow spirituallyâ€œ
When you begin to look at your life from the perspective of your soul, you will see your experiences differently. From the perspective of your soul, all of your experiences offer you opportunities to grow spiritually, even painful experiences such as feeling unfulfilled and lonely.
These experiences come from fear â€“ the fear that you are not enough, that you are flawed and defective, unlovable, and unable to love. All painful experiences, not only lack of fulfillment and loneliness, come from fear. They show you parts of your personality that you must heal in order to move into the meaning and joy that is waiting for you. Joyful experiences come from love, such as gratitude, appreciation, patience, caring, and contentment. They show you parts of your personality that you must cultivate in order to experience meaning and joy.
At the center of your life, moment by moment, is choice. Even when it seems that you have no choice, such as when meaninglessness and loneliness overwhelm you, you actually do. You can choose to perpetuate those experiences by dwelling in them, or instead to reach for the healthiest part of yourself that you can imagine in the moment and act on it. The more you do that, the more you free yourself from these painful experiences. You still feel them and think their thoughts, but they do not control you. They begin to wash off you like water off a duckâ€™s feathers. They do not penetrate as deeply into you. Eventually they do not control you at all and they disappear. This is the creation of authentic power. Creating authentic power brings purpose. Living in the control of your fear cannot.