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Many of you have contacted us with questions…we would like to provide answers to the commonly asked questions. As we answer and post questions each week, this section will expand and these questions will be categorized under topics that you will be able to search. In this way, we hope to support you in your journey to authentic power!

General Questions

– How can I love without fear? I am struggling to love my partner without fears or expectations, but I am finding that despite the fact that I can love others without fear, I am unable to love her that way.

– How do I believe that what I need will appear when my four children are hungry, that I won’t starve when there really isn’t any food?

 

Spirituality and Healing

– Do you have any spiritual wisdom for alcoholics?

– If we are all learning, wouldn’t it be better if we knew what we had done wrong so that we could put it right this time?

– How do I forgive myself? How do I come back to the good part of myself when I have been in such a dark place for so long?

 

Spirituality and Religion

– I am not religious. So, what does spiritual partnership have to do with me?

– Do you believe in God?

 

Spiritual Growth

– I feel so unfulfilled and lonely inside. How do I find my purpose?

 

General Questions

How can I love without fear? I am struggling to love my partner without fears or expectations, but I am finding that despite the fact that I can love others without fear, I am unable to love her that way.

Love and fear exclude each other. You cannot love and fear at the same time. You also cannot fear and love at the same time. There are times when you love your partner. Those are the times when you want to support her. You delight in his growing strength. Her vulnerabilities bring out your most caring tenderness. This is how we were meant to be with each other. It is natural to love.

Eventually you will learn to love each other, and, in the process, everyone and everything.

Gary Zukav

There are also times when you are frightened. You fear what he will say or do next, or what you will say or do. You want to remain together and you are frightened that you will separate. You fear that you will not be able to give her what she needs, or that she will not be able to do that for you.

You are together to learn how to love. Your fears show you what you need to work on. They are what need to be changed. You know that your spiritual partnership is working when it brings up your fears. It would not be working if it didn’t.

Eventually you will learn to love each other, and, in the process, everyone and everything. Before that happens, you will encounter all of your fears. That is the first step in healing them.




How do I believe that what I need will appear when my four children are hungry, that I won’t starve when there really isn’t any food?

It is often hardest to think of spiritual growth when your circumstances are difficult, such as not having money while your children are hungry, losing your job, the death of someone you depend upon, or a crippling accident. But these are times when you can benefit the most from stepping back from your circumstance a little bit and looking inside yourself at what you are experiencing while you are in it.

You can frantically search for a way to feed your children. Or you can look at your circumstances from the perspective that everything that happens to you offers you an opportunity to challenge your fears and create constructive consequences.

There are many ways to challenge a part of your personality that is frightened.

Gary Zukav

There are many ways to challenge a part of your personality that is frightened. For example, you can sit down, look into your mind and your heart, go to the happiest time in your life, whether it has to do with your family or your children. Think of how much you love your children, and then open yourself to new possibilities while you are feeling these things.

When you are controlled by fear, it is like wearing blinders. You can’t see very much except what is directly in front of you, such as your need for food for your children. When you are in a part of your personality that is loving, you can see ever so much more. You can see opportunities that you did not see before.

Challenging the fears that control you does not make the things that you need magically appear. It allows you to see ways to do what you need to do because you are freed from the terror of not being successful, because you know that every experience you have, even one that is this frightening, serves your spiritual growth.

When can you make your best decisions? when fear is controlling you or when you are able to feel your fear and not let it control you?

Challenging fear when you experience it instead of acting on it allows you to make the healthiest choices you can, in this case for your children and yourself. There are countless ways to challenge your fear, whatever it is.

Simply looking for these ways challenges every fear that you have.

Spirituality and Healing

 

Do you have any spiritual wisdom for alcoholics?

Healing an addiction is one of the greatest spiritual accomplishments. An addiction is the experience of a part of your personality that is completely in the control of external circumstances.

Healing an addiction is one of the greatest spiritual accomplishments.Gary Zukav

For example, if you are addicted to sex and you meet a willing partner, you will have sex. If you are addicted to alcohol or drugs and you are given a fix, you will take it. It you are addicted to food and you find a package of chocolate cookies, you will eat it. You are powerless.

Spiritual growth is the creation of authentic power, becoming the authority in your own life and able to make the most constructive choices at each moment. This is what an addict cannot do.

In other words, your addiction shows you exactly what you must acknowledge, experience, and heal with your own choices in order to create a life of meaning and joy instead of a life of continual and desperate need.

I suggest you read the Addiction chapter in The Seat of the Soul, and practice the exercises in The Heart of the Soul: Emotional Awareness and The Mind of the Soul: Responsible Choice.

There is no way around your addictions on the spiritual path.



If we are all learning, wouldn’t it be better if we knew what we had done wrong so that we could put it right this time?

A better question is, How can I create differently?

When you act with fear, you make the same choices you have made before and they create the same painful consequences that you have experienced before.

When you act with love, you break this cycle. You can choose differently by remembering that every interaction, even one that you replay in your mind, is an opportunity for you to act from love instead of fear, even if you have always acted from fear in the past.

For example, even if you have always shouted when you became angry in the past, you can choose not to shout this time. If you have always withdrawn emotionally when you became jealous in the past, you can choose not to withdraw emotionally this time. Nothing is stopping you from making healthy choices except the parts of your personality that want to shout, withdraw, etc.

Instead of concerning yourself with getting it right focus each moment on making the healthiest choice you can. You cannot get it wrong because no matter what choice you make you will have the opportunity to learn from the consequences that it creates.

Why not create joyful and constructive consequences instead of painful and destructive consequences?



How do I forgive myself? How do I come back to the good part of myself when I have been in such a dark place for so long?

Not forgiving is like wearing dark sunglasses that gruesomely distort what you see, and you insist that others wear these sunglasses, too. When you forgive, you take the sunglasses off.

Forgiveness can happen easier when you see that the pain you are suffering affects you, and only you can choose other experiences.Gary Zukav

Not forgiving is like carrying a bag full of heavy rocks wherever you go. When you forgive, you put the bag down and walk away from it. The person you forgive may not
even know that you have forgiven her.

Forgiveness can happen easier when you see that the pain you are suffering affects you, and only you can choose other experiences. For example, when you are holding a grudge or not forgiving someone, ask yourself, Does this feel good or bad?  (It will feel bad.)

Then ask yourself, Is not forgiving worth my continuing to feel this way? 

If it isn’t, do something different. Try forgiving anyway, even if the person you haven’t forgiven is yourself. Hold yourself accountable for your decision to free yourself from the pain of not forgiving, or for your decision not to forgive and continue to feel the pain.

Look at your hardship as an opportunity to do something that will benefit you. When you forgive, you take the opportunity.

Spirituality and Religion

 

I am not religious. So, what does spiritual partnership have to do with me?

Gary Zukav and Linda Francis

Through spiritual partnerships, you can:

  • Experience your emotions
  • Say the difficult things you want to say
  • Understand the consequences you create
  • Become responsible for all your choices
  • Develop your deep intuition
  • Release your attachment to outcomes
  • Create relationships based on honesty
  • Make real and lasting change in your life

Spiritual partnership is NOT about:

  • Religion or spirituality
  • Finding a soul mate
  • Having meaningful friendships

Spiritual partnership is a relationship that helps you learn, grow, and change YOURSELF with the support of others who want to do the same.



Do you believe in God?

God is used by many people to mean many different things, so I do not use this word. Also, more suffering, pain, brutality, and carnage may have been committed in the name of God than any other cause or idea.

At the same time, the wisdom and compassion of the Universe is visible for anyone to see. Every experience offers an opportunity to react in fear or respond with love. Both choices create consequences which again offer opportunities to react in fear or respond with love.

Consequences that are created by fear are always painful, and consequences that are created by love are always wonderful filled with wonder. Eventually, all of us learn in the intimacy of our own experiences the relationship between the choices we make and the consequences we encounter, and begin to make better choices.

In the Earth school you see for yourself that you need to change in order to stop creating pain for yourself, and then you change yourself because you want to change.Gary Zukav

This is how the Earth school works.

What school could be more effective?

In the Earth school you see for yourself that you need to change in order to stop creating pain for yourself, and then you change yourself because you want to change.

What way of learning could be more compassionate
and wise?

What way could produce change more permanent?

You do not need to believe in the compassion and wisdom of the Universe when you can see it for yourself wherever you look.

Spiritual Growth

 

I feel so unfulfilled and lonely inside. How do I find my purpose?

From the perspective of your soul, all of your experiences offer you opportunities to grow spiritually

Zukav

When you begin to look at your life from the perspective of your soul, you will see your experiences differently. From the perspective of your soul, all of your experiences offer you opportunities to grow spiritually, even painful experiences such as feeling unfulfilled and lonely.

These experiences come from fear the fear that you are not enough, that you are flawed and defective, unlovable, and unable to love. All painful experiences, not only lack of fulfillment and loneliness, come from fear. They show you parts of your personality that you must heal in order to move into the meaning and joy that is waiting for you. Joyful experiences come from love, such as gratitude, appreciation, patience, caring, and contentment. They show you parts of your personality that you must cultivate in order to experience meaning and joy.

At the center of your life, moment by moment, is choice. Even when it seems that you have no choice, such as when meaninglessness and loneliness overwhelm you, you actually do. You can choose to perpetuate those experiences by dwelling in them, or instead to reach for the healthiest part of yourself that you can imagine in the moment and act on it. The more you do that, the more you free yourself from these painful experiences. You still feel them and think their thoughts, but they do not control you. They begin to wash off you like water off a duck’s feathers. They do not penetrate as deeply into you. Eventually they do not control you at all and they disappear. This is the creation of authentic power. Creating authentic power brings purpose. Living in the control of your fear cannot.

 

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The Most Dangerous Virus

Many people are speaking now and frequently about fear – of the political situation, unstable markets and weather, and now, a virus. Concern about the virus is now surpassing the other fears that frightened parts of our personalities put on inner display daily for us, if we are willing to look at (experience) them instead of distracting ourselves with food, work, sex, obsessions, and addictions. As we take these inner displays seriously and begin to explore them, a surprising discovery becomes observable, then noticeable, then unavoidable – the most invasive virus that we can experience today is fear. It is contagious, spreads quickly, and dangerous. It puts our ability to give the gifts that we were born to give at risk, and a life without giving them is a life of emotional pain, psychological pain, physical pain, every kind of pain.

There is no vaccine against fear, but there is a way to be healthy again if you become infected: Create authentic power. Frightened parts of your personality generate pain (you are infected when this happens) and loving parts of your personality relieve you of it when you cultivate them repeatedly (you become healthy again when this happens).

Think on this. Take precautions that you would take in any potentially dangerous circumstance, for example, handling very sharp knives in the kitchen, driving on the freeway, or trying to prove your self-worth by impressing others (pursuing external power). In the case of the virus, wash your hands often for at least twenty seconds (sing the alphabet song twice). Use your elbows or knuckles to avoid touching things with your hands, and keep your hands away from your face (viruses enter through mucus membranes including around your eyes). Bump elbows to greet one another instead of hugging. Use alcohol wipes (on the plane use them to clean arm rests, head rests, and trays).

Most important, do what is necessary to insure that you do not become infected with the truly dangerous virus of fear. If you allow it to grow in you, you will experience the very painful phenomenon of imploding under the fear of the collective. The physical virus is given to you to show you what is necessary to be physically healthy. This is symbolic, as is every experience in the Earth school. The destructive virus of fear is given to you to awaken you to what is necessary to move beyond fear permanently. This is far superior to what any vaccine can produce.

You can begin this process by enjoying yourself. That is a well-known and time-tested antidote to fear. Said another way, love is the only effective (and it is always effective) remedy to a life of fear.

Love,

Love, Fear, and the Coronavirus

A new consciousness is being born, and an old consciousness is dying. The new consciousness shows us ourselves, the world, and the Universe in new ways. The old consciousness does not. Both coexist in us at this time.

For example, from the perspective of the old consciousness, the internet connects us. From the perspective of the new consciousness, the internet is a reflection in the physical world of our growing awareness of our connection. From the perspective of the old consciousness, the coronavirus is creating our fear. From the perspective of the new consciousness, our fear is creating the coronavirus! How can that happen? What does that mean?

Your consciousness contains fear when you experience anger, jealousy, overwhelm, or anxiety; when you feel superior and entitled or inferior and need to please; and when you are obsessed (winning, making a profit, or romantic love), compulsive (workaholism or perfectionism), or addicted (food, sex, drugs, alcohol). All these are experiences of fear. Your consciousness contains love when you feel gratitude, patience, contentment, or awe of the Universe. These are experiences of love.

In other words, from the perspective of the new consciousness the coronavirus is an enormous and dramatic reflection of the enormous fear in our collective consciousness. Where, then, is its counterpart – the equally enormous and dramatic reflection of the enormous love in our collective consciousness? You experience that counterpart – the enormous love in our collective consciousness – each time you reach toward another with love and open yourself to her or his love. Billions of us experience it in our loving, self-imposed isolations each time we find or devise new ways to connect with others – including others we do not know – with love instead of fear, to join them instead of separate ourselves from them, to explore our goodness, softness, and tenderness, and to experience the goodness, softness, and tenderness in them.

We all experience that enormous love each time we wash our hands with the intention to protect others from the virus as well as to protect ourselves from it. We all experience that love in a big way each time we care for the well-being of others as much as we care for our own. We all experience it every time we perform an action – any action – consciously with love instead of unconsciously with fear.

We do not need the coronavirus to show us this, but this what it is designed to show us.

Love,

The Compassion Virus

The Compassion Virus is concurrently infecting the human species along with the Coronavirus. The more you know about it, the better.

INCUBATION PERIOD

The incubation period of the Compassion Virus may be quite long. Infection can occur months or years prior to the appearance of symptoms and even predate the birth of the infected individual. In these cases, infection is deemed to have occurred in another personality of the soul of the infected individual. Five-sensory diagnosis is impossible because souls and other personalities of them are undetectable to five sensory clinicians.

EARLY ONSET

Individuals in the early onset stage of the Compassion Virus appear asymptomatic. Physical symptomology is absent, however, internal nonphysical markers are self-identifiable by the infected individual. He or she begins to question why he or she performs certain actions apart from obvious benefits and detriments. Is it for the benefit of himself or herself or/and the benefit of others? At this stage the Compassion Virus becomes contagious.

ADVANCED SYMPTOMS

Advanced symptoms of the Compassion Virus include behavioral changes such as interest in the well-being of random others. These aberrant behaviors hinder accumulation of influence, ability to manipulate and control, acquisition of redundant houses, automobiles, clothing, and luxuries, and accomplishment of conventional aspirations. Infected individuals eventually exhibit compassion for everyone, including individuals they previously disliked, for example, greedy, exploitative, insensitive, rude, brutal, masochistic, and sadistic individuals. This serious and significant symptom signals the final stage in the progression of the Compassion Virus and indicates that it has taken control of the infected individual. At this stage the Compassion Virus is highly contagious.

RECOVERY PERIOD

There is no recovery from the Compassion Virus.

SUGGESTIONS

Examine yourself carefully for signs of the Compassion Virus. If you find any, take the following actions immediately:

1. Look at it with your eyes wide open. This is a potentially life-changing condition.

2. Cultivate it.

3. Treasure it.

Love,

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