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CONSCIOUS CHRISTMAS OR UNCONSCIOUS CHRISTMAS?

CONSCIOUS CHRISTMAS OR UNCONSCIOUS CHRISTMAS?

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What would a conscious Christmas look like? It would look like the Christ – loving others, caring about others without second agendas, no attempt to impress, patient, and caring. It would not be limited to a day, evening, or night. It would not be a special event. It would be a life-long endeavor, focusing the power of goodnesscompassion, and Divinity onto to every interaction and experience. It would be willful, not mindlessly habitual. It would demand commitment and an elevated perception. It would be the experiences of lovewisdom, and compassion brought into the matter of your life.

Who would benefit from a conscious Christmas? Everyone. It would cleanse the road film of sentimentality from our experiences, wipe clean the lens of our expanded perception, replace every distortion of anger, jealousy, resentment, superiority and inferiority with clarity, and free us from fear. Even if you don’t celebrate Christmas, recognizing the differences between a conscious Christmas and a commercial Christmas will help you recognize the differences between a conscious life and an unconscious life.

A CONSCIOUS CHRISTMAS IS: AN UNCONSCIOUS CHRISTMAS IS:
Quality time with family and friendsvs.       impatience, overwhelm and stress
Aware and healthy interactionsvs.habitual and unexamined interactions
Compassion for others and yourselfvs.judging others and yourself
Seeing from an impersonal perspectivevs.taking things personally
Cultivating love at every chancevs.indulging fear (impatience, anger, etc.) at every chance
Being kind (no second agendas)vs.giving so others will like you
True and deep connectionsvs.sentimental interactions
Acting and speaking with integrityvs.letting things slide because it’s the holidays
Caregivingvs.caretaking
Conscious use of moneyvs.shopping out of obligation or need to please
Healthy, conscious eatingvs.eating and drinking to cover pain
Open heartednessvs.evaluating, assessing, judging others

In short, a conscious Christmas is filled with experiences of love and an unconscious Christmas is filled with experiences of fear. Only an empowered heart creating without attachment to the outcome can live a conscious Christmas, and only a heart clouded by lack of self-worth and searching for value outside of itself can experience an unconscious Christmas.

This mirrors the creation of authentic power – the alignment of the personality with the soul – and the pursuit of external power – ability to manipulate and control. Every deed, word, and gift at Christmas can express the creation of authentic power or the pursuit of external power. The intention that you hold as you act and speak makes the difference.
May your Christmas this year – and all your times – be heart-filled, joyful, and fulfilling.
Love.
Linda & Gary
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PROACTIVELY CHOOSING TO LOVE

PROACTIVELY CHOOSING TO LOVE

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What does it REALLY mean to make choices from healthy parts of your personality? It’s not only when you observe that a fearful part of your personality is active (for example, one that is impatient), and you decide to act from a loving part of your personality instead (for example, one that is patient). This is the core dynamic of creating authentic power.

It also means proactively and consciously choosing to act from a loving part of your personality moment by moment – for example, a part that is grateful, or appreciative, or caring, or content, or in awe of the Universe as well as patient. When you do this, you will notice that you are naturally more givingcreative, and curious. You will feel your heart opening, and the joy of opening to others will fill your awareness.

Allow yourself to go on an adventure for the next week, or month, or even for the remainder of today in order to begin the process. Consciously and proactively choose to act from a loving part of your personality all the time. Cultivate loving parts of your personality moment to moment, interaction to interaction, activity to activity. Use all the circumstances of your life all the time – especially those that are unpleasant or painful – to bring patience, appreciation, gratitude, and care into your life. Can you imagine doing this all the time? Can you imagine taking the helm of your vessel and sailing toward love continually?

Love,

Linda & Gary
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Paris – What Can I Do?

Paris – What Can I Do?

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The first thing you can do is look inside yourself. Look at the emotions you feel. Were you shocked, overwhelmed, angered, righteous, grieved, humiliated, or despondent when you heard the news? Did you feel superior to the suicide bombers? Did you judge them contemptible? Did you want to go to war with them? Are you already at war with them in your mind? Did you want to eliminate them so that you can be safe again at home with your beliefs and those who share them?
We all have experiences such as these, even if we think that could not be possible. The more you explore your personality with courage and integrity, the more of them you will discover. These parts of your personality originate in fear, in the pain of powerlessness that they can not be safe and feel valuable until everyone sees the world as they see it. They are rigid, closed, and disdainful. They exclude. In Paris, they killed.

When you experience all the parts of your personality, you give yourself the ability to choose among them – to change the parts of yourself that disdain and would kill or to act on them. The people who killed in Paris chose to act on them. They did not change the world. They contributed more to the world of what the world is already built on – fear. They worshiped at the alter of power as ability to manipulate and control, to detonate the bomb, pull the trigger. Everyone who wants to change others, impose a belief, and inflict harm worships at the same alter whether in the name of Islam, Christianity, Hinduism, or science.

Now the choice is ours. We can disdain and kill, or we can create harmony, cooperation, sharing, and reverence for Life. We can contribute a new power (authentic power) to a new world, power as alignment of the personality with the soul.

We cannot make this choice if we do not realize that we have it. That is why looking inside yourself is the first thing you can do when you read about the attacks in Paris or you think about them. These deeds, and all deeds like them, are reminders to us that we have a choice.

Love.
Linda & Gary
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DON’T LET THE ELECTION DISTRACT YOU

DON’T LET THE ELECTION DISTRACT YOU

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Don’t let the election in the United States be a distraction. Two political parties each pursuing external power have produced a destructive and predictable consequence. The pursuit of external power – the ability to manipulate and control – is now counterproductive to our evolution. It is toxic. This means that attempting to change circumstances in any way with external power will not produce the world that we desire – a world of harmony, cooperation, sharing, and reverence for Life. It will only contribute more to the world of what the world is currently made of – fear.

The only remedy to fear is love. The only place where you can choose between the intention of love and the intention of fear is in yourself. This is the contribution that you can make. It may seem a small contribution, but that is from the perspective of the five senses. From a multisensory perspective it is the strongest and most powerful contribution that you can make to our common collective. It is the most powerful and constructive contribution that you can make to Life. And it is the contribution that you were born to make.

To create with love requires you to identify fear in yourself and challenge it by not acting on it and instead act from the most loving part of your personality that you can. The frightened parts of your personality are those that you experience as anger, jealousy, resentment, terror, depression, humiliation, happiness at getting what you want, etc. The loving parts of your personality are those that you experience as gratitudeappreciationcaring, and patience, among others.

From a five-sensory perspective, it may appear impossible to be grateful or appreciative of an occurrence that you do not want to happen. From a multisensory perspective, it is an opportunity to grow spiritually, and opportunities to grow spiritually are always being offered to us in the intimacy of our own experiences, no matter what is happening outside of us such as a 911 type event or a macro event such as the election of an American president that was created by the same energy, the energy of fear.

Now is the time to come to terms with the energy of fear in you, to use your courage to experience fear fully emotionally in terms of physical sensations in your body and to challenge it by choosing consciously to act with an intention of love. Look for what you can find to be grateful for in the world around you. See what you can find about yourself and change in yourself for the better. Create authentic power.
This is our opportunity. This is always our opportunity.
Everything else is a distraction.
Love.
Linda & Gary
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HOW TO CREATE COMPASSIONATE HOLIDAYS

HOW TO CREATE COMPASSIONATE HOLIDAYS

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Compassionate Holidays require that you act consciously each moment. Unconscious caretaking and pleasing others (giving gifts because it is the “season”) are NOT compassionate deeds. They ignore the humanity of the recipient because the recipient is being exploited by frightened parts of your personality. This type of interaction multiplied billions of time each “Holiday Season” makes the experience much less than it could be.

Compassion is being moved to and by acts of the heart. I am not speaking of the sentimental “heart,” the “heart” that feels pity and need to fix other’s problems (these are experiences of frightened parts of the personality). I am speaking of the most healthy, inclusive, grounded, and loving part of yourself. If this heart is not involved, no compassion is present. Therefore a compassionate Holiday, like a compassionate family dinner or a compassionate country requires you to replace the experiences of frightened parts of your personality (which also include anger, impatience, frustration, and judging) with the experiences of loving parts (gratitude, appreciation, patience, caring). This creates authentic power.

People who do not know about authentic power want very much to experience compassion, especially during the Holiday Season, but they don’t know how so they try to will compassion into themselves. This makes compassion even more difficult to experience because the effort to experience it is really an effort to make themselves feel better, which is the opposite of compassion
Most people are not aware of this close relationship between creating authentic power and experiencing compassion, but it is obvious to those who know even a little once they begin to think about it. You cannot be compassionate and angry at the same time, or compassionate and jealous at the same time, or intend to exploit someone and be compassionate with that person at the same time.

There is no such thing as compassionate Holidays. There are only compassionate individuals, and in each instance, compassion is a matter of choice – the choice to create authentic power, to challenge frightened parts of your personality and cultivate loving parts. A compassionate Holiday is impossible without a compassionate day before the holiday, day after the holiday, and compassionate days before and after those.

Happy Holi (Holy) Days,

Linda & Gary
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THANKS AND GIVING

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Folklore depicts Thanks Gving as a happy gathering of grateful white settlers (immigrants) and friendly Native Americans who helped them survive the winter. These immigrants were not “Pilgrims” – that name was added to the narrative later. Not all were looking for religious freedom. Some came to make money. Even the famous Plymouth Rock was a creation of local folklore. Native Americans showed the immigrants where to fish and how to plant corn (they were kinder to immigrants than we are), but probably no turkeys were eaten and certainly no pies.

oday only about four hundred Native American tribes have survived the massive, ongoing, and brutal genocide unleashed by these immigrants and their descendants. All of them were forcibly relocated (think Japanese internment camps, but worse) onto lands least desirable to white people. The Lakota Pine Ridge reservation is the most impoverished county in the United States. Few who understand all of this are thankful for it.

Now that we are becoming multisensory, we can look anew at the sentimental fabrications, such as Thanks Giving (and the Commercial Christmas), that perpetuate the self-delusions that we share. We can consciously create in our own lives real experiences of kindness, caring, and support. We can recognize “immigrants” (including ourselves) as powerful and creative, compassionate and loving spirits temporarily incarnate in the Earth school. We can learn about ourselves from our experiences and use what we learn to change ourselves for the better. This is creating authentic power.

As our family gathered for Thanks Giving (cooking a turkey and baking pies), one of our granddaughters sat at a table in the kitchen drawing a poster for all of us. It read, “Let our lives be filled with THANKS and GIVING.”
May you also choose to fill your life with THANKS and GIVING
Love.
Linda & Gary
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SMALL THINGS WITH GREAT LOVE

SMALL THINGS WITH GREAT LOVE

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Mother Teresa said, “We cannot do great things, but we can do small things with great love.” In my experience, the smallest things require the greatest love. The smallest things we do are the intimate and personal choices we make each moment before we act. These choices are always between the intention of love and the intention of fear – between gratitude, caring, and patience, among others, and anger, jealousy, righteousness, among others.

These choices appear to us as as the smallest of small things, as interior experiences that we alone can enter and alter. Yet with our choices of love or fear we create the consequences of our lives and the contributions we make to the world. These choices are the origins of all things, great and small, they alone animate the one who chooses. You are the one who chooses.

When you do these “small things” with great love, your great love manifests in the Universe. When you do them with great fear, your great fear manifests. We cannot do great things with great love – only the small things that always create constructive consequences. Do you smile with joy (love), or to manipulate (fear)? Are you tender in order to nurture (love) or to create an image of a tender person?
Do you do make your choices with great love, or do you distract yourself with thoughts about “great things” and “small things”?
Love.
Linda & Gary

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SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIPS AND FRIENDSHIPS

SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIPS AND FRIENDSHIPS

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Spiritual partnerships are partnerships between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth. They are for intimate couples and anyone who intends to become emotionally aware, self-responsible, and inwardly secure.

Spiritual partners help one another recognize parts of their personalities that come from love – such as gratitude, patience, and caring – and cultivate them by acting on them consciously. They also help one another recognize parts of their personalities that come from fear -such as anger, jealousy, and righteousness -and challenge them by acting from loving parts of their personalities (such as patience) when frightened parts (such as impatience) are active.

Spiritual partners say to one another, “If you think you see something in me (a frightened or loving part of my personality), and you think I might not see it, and you think I would benefit from seeing it, will you tell me?” This is the last thing friends want to say to one another or hear from one another They say things like, “Everything will be OK. This will work out fine.”
Friendships are parts of an old human consciousness that is dying. Spiritual partnerships are parts of a new human consciousness that is being born. Friends try not to stir the water. Spiritual partners stir the water with love. They intend to support one another in seeing what in the water prevents their joy and what creates it

Your Spiritual Partner,.

Linda & Gary