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HUMBLENESS

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The characteristics of an authentically empowered personality are humbleness, clarity, forgiveness, and Love. Love is the big one. Each time you have the courage to feel the sensations beneath the impulse to shout in anger, withdraw in jealousy, judge or disdain, or need to please, for example, and instead of acting on it, act from the healthiest part of yourself that you can access – even if that means simply remaining motionless and silent with a good intention for the person or people you are with, you create authentic power. The more you create authentic power, the more the characteristics of authentic power become your characteristics, and the more meaning, purpose, and joy enter your life.

This Spring through the beginning of Summer, I am going to explore each of the characteristics of an authentically empowered personality in a different article. This month I am beginning with characteristic of authentic power that few people have thought about – humbleness. What do you think it is, really? What do you think it is not, really? And last, why do you think it would be good to develop humbleness?

A humble person walks in a familiar world. He or she sees friends everywhere he or she looks, wherever he or she goes, with whomever he or she meets. His or her perception goes beyond the shell of appearance and into essence. He or she sees the attributes of people around him or her – big body, small body, strong body, weak body, quick intellect, slow intellect, yellow skin, brown skin, male or female, young or old – and on and on – as costumes. He or she does not believe that anyone will change this costume at the end of the day, but he or she also knows that everyone will leave it behind at the end of a lifetime. Ashes will return to ashes, and dust will return to dust. That is the way it is with costumes. They do not last forever. They do not even last very long – a century at best and much less for most people. The soul is a different story. The soul is immortal.

The next time you feel less than someone else, inadequate, or inferior, remember that “humbleness” doesn’t have anything to do with those experiences any more than it means lowering yourself to make a connection. There are no lower levels to a humble person. There are no higher levels, either. There are only souls. There is only love. Humbleness is one of the great gifts of authentic power – and you give it to yourself.

Next month, I will look at “Clarity.” It might surprise you, too.

Love.
Linda & Gary
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STRETCHING YOURSELF

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Commitment is a stretch when you commit to something new, something constructive and healthy, and stick to it, such as commitment to your integrity. How do you stay in integrity without being insensitive? How can you be sensitive to others and stay in it?

There are degrees of commitment, and each new degree is a stretch. It is as though we are individuals who are practicing yoga. As we stretch we become more limber, but we are always at the edge of what we can do. Individuals who come into the Authentic Power Learning Community may think that they are committed to creating authentic power and feel that they are committed, and yet as they begin to experience the depth of the transformation that occurs within themselves as they develop emotional awareness and apply responsible choice, they discover that they are indeed required to commit yet again.

Having a child is a commitment, and as the child grows, parents begin to understand in more fullness the demands of parenthood, and as they do, their commitment deepens or they fall into despair. As the child grows into adulthood, the commitment of the parents must deepen yet again to provide the love and wisdom they want to share in ways they are at the same time learning and learning how to share.

 

Having a child is a commitment, and as the child grows, parents begin to understand in more fullness the demands of parenthood, and as they do, their commitment deepens or they fall into despair. As the child grows into adulthood, the commitment of the parents must deepen yet again to provide the love and wisdom they want to share in ways they are at the same time learning and learning how to share.

It is the same with creating authentic power. The more you enter your life consciously, the more challenges and opportunities appear in equal measure. The more difficulties and tumultuous emotions you experience consciously and challenge, the more potential for freedom from fear and the spaciousness of joy appear. The more you stretch yourself, the more you gain. And you gain nothing when you do not stretch yourself. Creating authentic power is stretching yourself in every way that counts.

Love.
Linda & Gary
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PROACTIVELY CHOOSING TO LOVE

PROACTIVELY CHOOSING TO LOVE

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What does it REALLY mean to make choices from healthy parts of your personality? It’s not only when you observe that a fearful part of your personality is active (for example, one that is impatient), and you decide to act from a loving part of your personality instead (for example, one that is patient). This is the core dynamic of creating authentic power.

It also means proactively and consciously choosing to act from a loving part of your personality moment by moment – for example, a part that is grateful, or appreciative, or caring, or content, or in awe of the Universe as well as patient. When you do this, you will notice that you are naturally more givingcreative, and curious. You will feel your heart opening, and the joy of opening to others will fill your awareness.

Allow yourself to go on an adventure for the next week, or month, or even for the remainder of today in order to begin the process. Consciously and proactively choose to act from a loving part of your personality all the time. Cultivate loving parts of your personality moment to moment, interaction to interaction, activity to activity. Use all the circumstances of your life all the time – especially those that are unpleasant or painful – to bring patience, appreciation, gratitude, and care into your life. Can you imagine doing this all the time? Can you imagine taking the helm of your vessel and sailing toward love continually?

Love,

Linda & Gary
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LAS VEGAS – CLOSE TO HOME

LAS VEGAS – CLOSE TO HOME

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A spiritual partner in Las Vegas who knows how to create authentic power – who understands about emotional pain and the destructive consequences that follow from acting on it – was quiet and solemn. The terrible, senseless deaths, the deranged murderer, the grieving of those still alive, the shock of an impending nightmare become real and then gone, leaving a stunned silence filled with disbelief, then anger, rage, depression – all the experiences of frightened parts of the personality.
Our spiritual partner has helped many people develop emotional awareness and make responsible choices in difficult times. These are exactly the times when creating authentic power is most needed and most fruitful. A time when conscious choices to love, reach out, replace vengeance with compassion, and forgive are most difficult, and the rewards for doing these things while the emotional pain is greatest are the most freeing, unimaginable, and liberating.
All this presented itself to our spiritual partner in Las Vegas, and it presents itself to everyone day after day – when a death leaves us altered in ways we do not yet understand, when violence imposes itself. These things were close to her home because it was her neighbors, among others, who died and a neighbor who killed them.
Everyday millions of people suffer brutality and death – in sinking island nations, former colonies in worn-ravaged Africa, and megacities around the world. Their suffering is also close to home – our home. As our consciousness expands beyond the limitations of the five senses, our home becomes very large and the people in it become very close. Fear and death, love and blessing, self-service and selfless service are close to home for all of us. Every suffering and every joy is close to home.
The Lakota people say, “The joy of one is the joy of all, and the suffering of one is the suffering of all.” Everything that you do is close to home for everyone. Everything that I do is close to home for everyone.
What shall we do with this understanding?
Love.
Linda & Gary
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A DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE OF CHRISTMAS

A DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE OF CHRISTMAS

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The commercial christmas is the season of obligatory giving, unrestrained consumerism, family differences disguised as gatherings of the heart, and piles of wrapping trash. The celebration of love and joy that was born in the barren desert of Palestine is very different.

Love lifts us all. Even above the weight of forced familiarity, the spirit of giving soars. Linda and I are connected in ways we do not understand to a small island in the middle of the Pacific called “Maui.” We have returned to it every whale season for nearly thirty years. Our bond is that powerful. New shopping centers and asphalt have covered much of Maui since we first came, but they do not interfere with the spirit of Aloha there.

The commercial christmas is like the tons of asphalt that cover more of Maui each year, but the spirit of Aloha radiates through it like the spirit of Love radiates through the mountains of wrapping paper and trash that propel our economy from one selling season of to another, one season of consumption to another.
Christmas calls us to contribute. The commercial christmas calls us to consume. The spirit of Love, like the energy of Aloha, transforms us from consumers into contributors, from taking to giving, from expecting love from others to sharing it with others. For most people, this transformation is seasonal (temporary), but it doesn’t need to be. It can be a glimpse of your new life, your boundless compassion, and your fathomless love.
Happy Holi (Holy) Days,.
Linda & Gary

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SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIPS AND FRIENDSHIPS

SPIRITUAL PARTNERSHIPS AND FRIENDSHIPS

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Spiritual partnerships are partnerships between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth. They are for intimate couples and anyone who intends to become emotionally aware, self-responsible, and inwardly secure.

Spiritual partners help one another recognize parts of their personalities that come from love – such as gratitude, patience, and caring – and cultivate them by acting on them consciously. They also help one another recognize parts of their personalities that come from fear -such as anger, jealousy, and righteousness -and challenge them by acting from loving parts of their personalities (such as patience) when frightened parts (such as impatience) are active.

Spiritual partners say to one another, “If you think you see something in me (a frightened or loving part of my personality), and you think I might not see it, and you think I would benefit from seeing it, will you tell me?” This is the last thing friends want to say to one another or hear from one another They say things like, “Everything will be OK. This will work out fine.”
Friendships are parts of an old human consciousness that is dying. Spiritual partnerships are parts of a new human consciousness that is being born. Friends try not to stir the water. Spiritual partners stir the water with love. They intend to support one another in seeing what in the water prevents their joy and what creates it

Your Spiritual Partner,.

Linda & Gary
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Keep Your Eye on the Ball

Keep Your Eye on the Ball

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Once there was only one ball, and it hypnotized us. It seemed to cause our joy and pain and our pleasure and misery. It seemed to cause everything, and everything depended upon it. That ball was the world.

Now another ball has appeared, and it has become the new star of the show. The show is human evolution. This new ball is our interior experiences. Previously we did not pay attention to them until they became too painful to ignore, for example, our rage, jealousy, or grief. We never thought about them in the context of our evolution. On the contrary, they hindered our ability to evolve – to manipulate and control ball one (the world). Now ball two (our interior experiences) is more important to our evolution than ball one!

A great transformation in human consciousness is underway. We are transforming from five-sensory humans that are limited to the perceptions of the five senses into multisensory humans whose perceptions are hugely more expansive and entirely different. Our evolution now requires each of us to consciously and wisely choose constructive intentions. Five-sensory humans think their actions create consequences. Multisensory humans see that their intentions create consequences. This is a game-changer.

What does that mean in terms of the coronavirus? Suppose, for example, that you are confined to a small space or even a large one, and you are miserable. You feel lonely, listless, or depressed. You have no job, your child is ill, or (and) you are angry at being told what to do. Five-sensory humans think that the world causes these experiences. Multisensory humans know that dynamics inside themselves cause these experiences when the world activates them. They see what five-sensory humans are not able to see. Until they change these interior dynamics, they will continue to produce painful emotions each time the world activates them. When the quarantine is lifted, your job returns, or your child becomes healthy, your difficult emotions will disappear, but the dynamics inside you that caused them will remain intact, and the world will continue to activate them until you change them.

Your issues are not between the world and you. They are between you and you. Plato, Buddha, and the Christ all fought their own demons and gained power from their decisions. All our great heroes did this. Could the Christ have gained the Glory that He did were He not tempted? Only you can choose a road that leads to health and love (power) or a road that leads to dis-ease and fear (powerlessness). When you focus on ball one (the world), you cannot do this. When you focus on ball two (your internal experiences), you give yourself the ability to choose between the constructive and destructive internal dynamics within you – between the joyful consequences of love and the painful consequences of fear.

Keep your eye on the ball.
Love,
Linda & Gary