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What Gives You Meaning in Your Life?

What Gives You Meaning in Your Life?

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Contributing to the new humanity gives me meaning beyond anything I could have possibly imagined. I write books, give events, and create programs to teach about creating authentic power—aligning the personality with the soul so that we can transform ourselves with our own wills instead of trying to change others.

I am filled with meaning when I am giving a gift to Life. Sometimes when a chapter that I am writing comes to an end, or I reread a chapter that I have written, I cry without being able to stop because I am so grateful to be allowed to write these words and share these thoughts.

I am filled with meaning when I see that only I can change myself for the better with my own awareness and my own will, and no one else can change my life for me. I am filled with meaning when I see how much people suffer, including me, when they need to change others in order to feel worthy and safe and how futile that is.

I am especially filled with meaning when I see a part of my personality inside me that I need to change in order to feel safe and worthy and I strive to change that instead of change other people. I know that I am changing the world in a permanent, irrevocable way when I do this. I challenge my own anger, greed, jealousy, superiority, inferiority, or need to please instead of judging others when I see these things in them, and I cultivate my own patience, gratitude, contentment, and caring when I recognize them in me instead of thinking that only others can give these things to me.

What gives you meaning in your life?

Love.
Linda & Gary
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What are Spiritual Partnerships?

What are Spiritual Partnerships?

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Spiritual partnerships are the most fulfilling, substantive, and deep relationships possible. They are relationships between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth. Growing spiritually means creating a life of more joy and less pain, more meaning and less emptiness, and more love and less fear. As we become aware of ourselves as more than we once thought that we were—and this is happening to millions of people—we long for relationships that are the most meaningful and rewarding possible, that support us in becoming healthy, vibrant, creative, and loving. These are spiritual partnerships.

You can create spiritual partnerships within your family, with your friends, your coworkers, your neighbors, and with another individual as a couple. No matter who the spiritual partner or spiritual partners are, the spiritual partnership operates the same way. It is a vehicle that supports the partners in it to become more aware of their emotions, to become more aware of their intentions, and in making the most healthy choices that they can, choices that will create consequences for which they are willing to assume responsibility.

My spiritual partner Linda Francis and I have been together for 17 years. We are married, yet we see our relationship as a spiritual partnership, and we see ourselves as spiritual partners. I am committed to my spiritual growth, and Linda is committed to hers. I am responsible for my spiritual growth, and Linda is responsible for hers. Yet I support her in growing spiritually and she supports me. We began creating spiritual partnerships with our granddaughters when they were 6 and 8.

Who are the spiritual partners in your life?

Love.
Linda & Gary
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The Winter Solstice

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At the Winter Solstice the night is longest and the day is shortest. Cold envelops the Earth, trees are naked, the sky is grey, and the ground is frozen. When my life feels like that, even in the summer when the sun is bright and the breeze is warm, a Winter Solstice is there for me, offering profound opportunities for spiritual growth. The Winter Solstice is that time in anyone and everyone when no hope remains, all is lost and beyond recovery, and the land is barren to the horizon. A divorce, the death of a child, the failure of a business, loss of a job, foreclosure—the ocean of grief is bottomless in this dark and cold time.

Yet a Summer Solstice follows every Winter Solstice, just as a Winter Solstice follows every Summer Solstice. One cannot exist without the other. When death and desolation engulf all in the Winter Solstice, life and hope infuse all in the Summer Solstice.

How painful would it be to cling to the Summer Solstice or imagine that the Winter Solstice will last forever? When we plunge into frozen darkness with each tragedy or explode into happiness with each accomplishment, we miss the meaning of the solstices. They show us the changing nature of our experiences. They are parts of our experience but they are not who we are. We do not need to plunge into despair each time darkness arrives or pretend that sunlight and warmth will fill our days forever.

Cultivating love and challenging fear are choices. If we make them unconsciously, we journey through our lives forever fleeing the cold and seeking the warmth, fleeing pain and seeking joy. But we can choose consciously. We cannot control the weather—death, loss, and illness come—but we can choose our internal climate—love or fear.

The Winter Solstice is an opportunity to choose consciously.

Love.
Linda & Gary
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Signal and Noise

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The signal-to-noise ratio tells us how clearly we receive information. Little noise and mostly signal is good. Satellite, cell phone, and TV reception are clear. Static, cross-talk, and other signals are bad. The signal is blocked.

Anger, jealousy, superiority, entitlement, inferiority, need to please, obsessive thoughts (She’s so stupid; I’m so stupid), compulsive activities (workaholism; perfectionism), and addictive behaviors (smoking; pornography; overeating) are noise.

Love is the signal.

The only way to receive the signal is to eliminate the noise and fear. The spiritual signal-to-noise ratio is the love-to-fear ratio in your life. Only you can improve it. If you want to hear the signal better, reduce the noise. If you want to experience your love, challenge your fear.

That is creating authentic power. When you create authentic power, your signal-to-noise ratio improves.

When you become authentically powerful, your signal is loud and clear twenty-four seven.

Love.
Linda & Gary